75 Days

10.2.17

75 days…so hard to believe it has only been 75 days since we saw that blonde headed, brown eyed boy for the first time in person and were introduced as Ryan and Renae to a little guy that needed a new family.  And to be completely transparent we were probably just as scared as he was that Wednesday afternoon in July.  Every once in awhile he will mention to us something like “Mom do you remember…” and mention a detail about that first meeting, so it is en-grained in his mind as much as it is in ours.

We have had good days, bad days, terrible days and this weekend we had TWO amazing days!  This past Saturday and Sunday were the two best days so far.  He was just a different little boy.  We went to bed Saturday night and Ryan said to me…”all day I was wondering when the shoe was going to drop”…meaning when we would see the little man that we were used to.  But it seems maybe we have had a major break thru.  We hope he understands as much as a little 5 year old mind can, that we love him, that we are going to take care of him, that no matter what he does or says that we will still give him food to eat, a bed to sleep in, etc.  He really truly is a sweet little boy and when he wraps his arms around your neck just to tell you he loves you, all the hard times seem to melt away.

We have had so many friends, family, etc tell us they are praying for us and random text messages just to encourage and fun mail just to let us know they are thinking about us.  It has been amazing to watch how this little guy has affected so many other lives in our little “circle” in such a short amount of time.

He has a birthday this month and it will be fun to celebrate him on that day!  We truly feel blessed.

RLG

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Update

9.14.17

Just wanted to give a quick update on how things are going with our little guy.

He has adjusted well since coming to live in our home.  We are “Daddy” and “Mommy” to him and I don’t even know if he remembers our first names anymore.  We are fine with Daddy and Mommy but it can get sticky around birth mom.  But he made the choice (without us mentioning anything about those name) to call us that, so we go with it.

We love him so much and we are beyond blessed to have him in our home.  He was the first one to for us to “parent” and no doubt we have made many, many mistakes, but we just keep taking one moment at a time and hope to make a difference in his life (even if it is just a small one).

He LOVES school!  He is extremely social and loves to be with his “friends”.  We are thankful that we have had no issues with him not wanting to go etc.  He truly thrives on the routine of going to school.  I never knew kindergartners had homework…but I have since learned, they do!!!

We still have our moments with behavior issues but I am sure it is that way with any 5 year old.  His birthday is coming up and that will be fun to celebrate with him.

He loves, loves, loves his “Daddy”.  There is no way to explain how much he loves Ryan, it is amazing to see.

He will eat literally ANYTHING we eat, now it might take him an hour to eat it (because he is talking and anything distracts him) but he loves him some food.  He is constantly hungry and some meals eats more than I do.  We are glad that he has a great appetite and is willing to try new things, even Brussel Sprouts!

We have court in November so we are hoping to learn more about the length of time we may have him.  Things can change so quickly so we have learned to go with the flow and even the “flow” can become a “hurricane” pretty quick, but what happens in the end is always what the Lord wants to happen.

Thank you to each of you that has reached out with love and care, given advice, answered questions and just was an encouragement, it means the world to us as we continue on this journey.

RLG

 

 

Singing

7.24.2017

Remember in the Hot Potato post when I mentioned that after I got little man to give up the games in bed, he wanted to sing…well it just wasn’t as simple as singing one song.

I told him we could sing one song (he LOVES to sing) he reaches for my hands and holds them and picks Jesus Loves Me.  But wait…let me go back and explain a little.  On Thursday just him and I were in the car for a long period of time so I started singing “Sunday School” songs, he seemed to really like them and would start asking for them by name or give me a couple of words of the song and I would know which one he was wanting.  We sang and sang and sang, but his favorite by far was Jesus Loves Me.  So back to Thursday night…he reached for my hand and holds it and I told him he could pick which song, he picked “Jesus Loves Me”.  We sing it (he tried to sing as many words as he knew), we finished that song and he says “just one more?” well I totally gave in to that cute face and beautiful brown eyes and I said okay, he picked “ABC”.  After that one was finished I got up to leave and he wouldn’t let go of my hand and he says “can we sing Jesus Loves Me again?”, weak Momma caved, how could I resist?

This boy of ours has completely changed our home for the better!  He is growing us in ways we had no idea, but it is so good!  I am thankful to be his Momma if only for a short period of time or forever we will never forget the impact he has had on our lives so quickly!

 

Parents

7.19.17

So tonite at 4 p.m. we will become parents for the first time!!!!  That is hard say, let alone write.  Excited, nervous, anxious, excited, unknown, excited (oh wait, did I say that already)…yes there are many words to describe the feelings we have right now but one thing we do know for sure is that we are so BLESSED!

Last Thursday we received a phone call with our first referral…less than one week after we were approved.  Ryan and I talked about the situation and said “YES”.  So after many phone calls, emails and even more interviews and making final preparations for our home study we will meet our son tonite.

We heard many times during our pre-service training that this process is an emotional roller coaster and we have already experienced that for sure.  But each day (and many times throughout the days) we just prayed for God’s will, we prayed for peace and wisdom to know how to proceed and God answers those prayers in a big way.

When we were called with the referral late Thursday afternoon we were told we might need to go pick him up that night…we were ready!  Then several hours later we were told no, but they would be in contact tomorrow with more information and details…so we didn’t know if that meant we would be picking him up or what the situation might be. Friday came and we were told that they decided to review several other families profiles and they would make a decision…okay, we would wait (we knew all along that if he was to come to our home God would work it out).  Friday afternoon we were told that the county wanted to meet Ryan and I in person and interview us…sure!  Monday we found out that the interview would be Tuesday at 1:30…we weren’t sure what this would be like.  Tuesday we drive out of the county into new territory and we for the first time are in a Children and Youth Center to meet a caseworker and as we sat there and waited I was just reminded how absolutely blessed I am!!!!

After an hour and a half interview (which wasn’t scary at all) and finding out more about this little guy that needed a home we took some time and talked to the representative from our agency and we said YES again to this little boy.  Yes to the unknown, Yes to being parents to an adorable blond hair little guy, Yes to loving this boy with all of our hearts no matter how long he is in our home.

So last night on the way home we stopped at Walmart and grabbed a couple of things that we thought he would need and Ryan had fun trying to find the things that we needed in superhero themes (who ever knew that they made superman toothbrushes?).

We know that our lives will be forever and completely changed with a child in our home and last night we talked about how different things will be from now on, but we have definitely learned this whole process isn’t about us but about these children who need love, care and attention and if we can help them and minister to them (ever if just for a short time) than that is what we will do.

Pray for us!

RLG